Hi babe,
You know what's one of the first things I had to get rid of when I decided to really change my life and the way I did relationships?
I got rid of thinking that men and women operate the same.
Because up until maybe my last relationship, I still believed that if I showed my love and care, and I was the selfless, nurturing, and low
maintenance girlfriend, then he would give me the same love and care back.
The thing is... men and women are not intrinsically motivated by the same things in life simply because we are not built the same.
When you neglect yourself, and you TRY to be the low maintenance girl who doesn't need anything, you're labeled as low worth in men's eyes.
It's hard to hear, but this is the truth.
And I'm not talking
about dressing to the nines, having your hair perfectly done every day, and your nails and makeup immaculate and pristine 24/7...
I'm talking about taking the steps to take care of yourself and your wellbeing - mentally, physically, and emotionally.
You do not have to be a girlie who likes getting her hair and nails done, but you need to be a girlie who cares about having her them clean and neat.
If you do not take care of
yourself, if you do not hold yourself to a certain standard, if you do not care about the quality of your life, you simply do not love yourself.
And women who do not love and care about themselves, and pour their love and attention onto others first, will always be seen as "broken" or unworthy in men's eyes.
Ask yourself this - why would a good healthy masculine man be attracted to a woman who doesn't love herself?
Only
men who can benefit and take advantage of her in her compromised state would want to date women who lack self love because they are easy targets.
Good men want to see you thriving, they want to see you well taken care of, they want to see that you love and care about yourself.
They love it even more when you put yourself before them.
Of course, I mean this for most trivial matters though because as a couple, what's
important to him should be important to you too.
But when you are dating or even when you're in a relationship, you have to maintain your boundaries and your self respect, and continue to love and take care of yourself.
Love you,
Your big sis - Nadeen
P.S: if you didn't see my last email, I came up with a fun challenge and list of glow up suggestions for you to do before summer comes along
- you can download it here 💖
