[The Ripple Effect] Three Ways To Thrive During Change

Published: Fri, 02/15/13

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Hello everyone and welcome to this month's issue of The Ripple Effect.   Hope you are having a great winter.  January marked the start of C3's fourth year in business. It's hard to believe it's been a full three years since we began and it is fun to look back and see how we have changed and evolved as we have grown the past 3 years.  Just like with real-life, some of the change in our business is self-inflicted as we evolve along with the marketplace and our clients, and some of it is change that is thrust upon us, based on unexpected occurrences and opportunities. 
 
I have always been someone who enjoys change.  Maybe it's because as a child my family moved around a number of times due to my Dad's corporate career path. Although those were not easy changes, it definitely enabled me to learn to adapt to all types of life change - those that are thrust upon me and those I choose to create.  
 
Speaking of change, I thought you would enjoy seeing some more pictures of the changing seasons  on the beautiful land I am blessed to call home.  One photo is part of our yard last summer and the other was taken just last week when we woke to about 4 inches of snow on the ground.  
 
 
 

As these pictures depict, change is the natural order of things... seasons change,  we change, life changes. I wrote this month's article about how to thrive during change.  As much as we know that change is the natural order of our lives, our strong human tendency is to resist it and with all the changes constantly happening around us, I thought it would be helpful to share that, yes, you can thrive through change and even enjoy it by following a few simple steps outlined in this month's article. 

 

I hope you enjoy the article and, as always, feel free to pass this onto anyone you feel will benefit from reading it - keep spreading those positive ripple effects!

Best always,

Andria

 

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    Three Ways To Thrive During Change
     

    Change is a way of life.  As much as people like "the way things are", eventually and inevitably life changes - seasons change, we grow, children grow up, and time moves on.   Change often seems disruptive yet we can learn to thrive through change by following a few simple steps.  I've been through a lot of changes in my life.  They started when I was growing up and my family would have to frequently relocate to follow my dad's corporate career.  These changes continued into my own adult life - job assignment changes, career changes, divorces - all these things created radical movement and shift in my life and I discovered a few key things that supported me in staying grounded throughout these seemingly large disruptions to my life.

     

    First, don't resist the change.   When change is thrust upon us (as when I was a child and would receive the dreaded news from my parents: "We're moving"), it's easy to push back and resist the change.  However, if you allow yourself to accept it, turn towards the momentum of the change, you are more able to ride that momentum.  As a kid I knew I had no choice - we were moving.  The more I cried and yelled that I loved where we lived and didn't want to move, the worse the change appeared.  Once I was able to take a deep breath and accept that there was no way around it, my momentum shifted.  Instead of paddling upstream against the current, my acceptance allowed me to turn downstream and flow with the change.  It made it much easier to deal with. 

     

    It was the same when one of my clients received devastating news that she was losing her job.  Initially she resisted that news with her entire being. This created a lot of consternation in her life.  As soon as she accepted the fact that she was losing her job, she was able to ride the wave of the change and discover opportunities that were waiting for her on the other side of the change.

     

    And, that's the next way to thrive during change: look for opportunity.  There is always opportunity lurking behind every life change - you just have to seek it out.   (Please see my recent blog post, What Are You Looking For, to learn more about how you get what you're looking for in your life - whether you want it or not).  It is when we resist change that we are unable to see the opportunity change creates.  This holds true for changes that are unexpectedly forced upon us or those we create on our own.  Several years ago when I began getting internal nudges to leave my corporate job and start my own business, I resisted those internal nudges for a while.  Why?  Because I was not ready for the huge change that accompanied acknowledging the nudges- it felt scary.  Yet, just like when I had to move as a kid, once I accepted that the change was necessary, I saw the huge opportunities behind taking the leap and leaving my corporate job to start my own business.   And, just like with my client who was resisting the fact that she was losing her job - once she accepted it, she began to see the endless opportunities ahead of her - opportunities that would not have otherwise been presented to her if she had not lost her job.

     

    If you're finding it difficult to see opportunities, try to imagine what the other side of the change will look like for you after you have successfully transitioned through it.  Visualize what your life looks like after the change and how relieved and proud you feel to be through it.  Oftentimes opportunities will present themselves as you are focused on your success at the other end of the change.

     

    The third way of thriving during change is to determine what you can control and take action on that.  There will be countless things about a life change that will be out of your realm of control.  My client could not control the decision that she was losing her job.  She wanted to - in fact, she toyed with the idea of making a plea for her company to keep her; yet, trying to control things we cannot contributes to our resisting the change and prevents us from moving forward.  Once she realized that the only thing she could control was her reaction and the subsequent steps she took in this situation, she built an action plan to transition through the change - one that was focused on things within her realm of control.  

     

    Change can be scary but it does not have to be.  These things may seem simplistic but they truly can change the way you handle change:  Don't resist. Seek Opportunities.  Take actions on what YOU can control and let the rest go. 
     
    This month's development tip:  Are you in the midst of a change or know someone who is?   Use these techniques to help yourself or to support someone else going through the change.  Often it's the most simple and basic techniques that can make the biggest difference.    

        

     

    Andria Corso is the founder of C3 Coaching and Consulting. an Executive Leadership and Career Development Coaching and Consulting firm.  C3's mission is to help our clients reach their highest potential.  Read more about C3 here or contact us to find out how we can help you and your organization reach your greatest success.

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