Entangled in our personal needs, our happiness is attached to the results of our actions. We’re not giving just for the sake of giving. We’re giving so we can feel good, get approval, or confirm to ourselves that we’re the giver we think we’re supposed to be. Stuck in this mindset, how can we possibly
feel fulfilled in life…and in our relationships?
This problem is rooted in limiting ideas that we’re inadequate or unlovable. And the solution is to know that is not who we really are.
True service emerges effortlessly through us with complete surrender of everything that defines our personal sense of self. This includes our beliefs about ourselves and the world, our stories, our expectations, and our attachment to any outcomes—all driven by fear and need.
Are you ready to move beyond these limiting ideas? Because none of them can begin to define the truth of your infinite radiance.
When we give freely, our actions are revealed by listening deeply inside to see how life
calls us. We’re moved by love—not by beliefs or history, and not by what we think we should do. We don’t need to act to feel good about ourselves.
Actions of true service arise, uncaused, with no regard to the outcome.
Early on in my career as a psychotherapist, I was confused about what it means to serve. I felt frustrated when clients didn’t improve and, even though I was trying hard, I considered that maybe my skills were inadequate. It was stressful—until I received the support I needed that changed my perspective entirely.
I learned to take my personal needs out of the equation so I could be fully in the moment with the person in front of me..intimate and unveiled… All that was being asked of me was to show up completely—empty, loving, and authentic.
Without attachment to outcomes or goals, and with no need to fix anyone, my joy for the work blossomed.
True service is not only about how we relate to others. Every moment of deep inner listening
and surrender is service. In these temporary human forms, we’re here to be used in service to the undivided, to the flow of life, to how love wants to move.
And it includes everyone and everything. It’s the energy you bring to driving in a traffic jam, the way you chop the celery, the kindest “no” that
speaks what’s true for you.
Do you want to truly serve? Then be empty…and fully alive in the now. Don’t carry forward your fears and beliefs that you’re inadequate. Then you’re available, wide open and curious, to know how life wants to move
you…
Gail
Note: I'm excited to see you at our next online gathering on Wednesday, December 7, as we open up the topic of Deep Knowing Beyond the Sense of the Separate Self. Please click here for details and to register.