“You have the freedom, ability and authority to love your life. Just be you, then wait.”

~Gangaji

Note: Our next Coming Home zoom gathering will be on Wednesday, March 27 from 9-10:30am Pacific. This event is free, and all are welcome as we explore, Freedom Beyond the Sense of the Separate Self. Please click here for details and registration.

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It's so easy to go unconscious. In fact, isn’t that how most of us live?

We react quickly rather than slowing down so we can be aware and thoughtful. We’re lost and disconnected rather than present and alive.

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Our habits take over before we realize it.

And what is the effect? Repetitive arguments, addictive behaviors, endless anxious thinking, and an underlying sense that something important is missing.

I know only one way out of this dissatisfying way of being—stay close to what you really want.
 

Go inside and contemplate what you really, really want, then stay very close to it. Keep it alive in you. And as much as possible, make choices that reflect this deep desire.

Someone I know is easily overcome by anger, and she’s aware that it’s wreaking havoc on her relationships. She has lots of opinions about how things are supposed to be and gets furious when others’ actions don’t conform to these opinions.

What she really wants is friendship, peace, and intimacy, but you’d have a hard time knowing that if you saw how she reacts. So there’s a disconnection—a gap between what she wants and how she expresses herself with her loved ones.
 

I asked her what would change if she stayed close to what she really wants, and her answers were eye-opening. She would:

• Walk away when she felt herself escalating;
• Take deep conscious breaths when she’s triggered as well as several times throughout the day;
• Start taking yoga classes again;
• Be present when she took walks in nature.

She was surprised at how far she had drifted from her deepest desire.
 

Now it’s your turn to stop and reflect: what do you really want? What would change if you stayed close to this desire?

• If you want happiness, turn toward it over and over. Don't dwell in stressful thoughts.
• If you want better relationships, be peaceful and caring. See the other as your friend, your own heart, and not your enemy.
• If you want to be ruled less by your emotions, breathe through them until you're more clear-headed.

You might think that living your life according to what you really want is selfish—but actually it’s the opposite.
 

When you’re in harmony with your truth, you're open to life. You’re less interested in the mental noise playing in your mind, so you're present with people and situations.

You’re not doubtful and confused because you always have a touchstone—what you really want.
 

This conscious way of being makes you more available to joy, ease, and heartful connection. Live here—in the simplicity of what you really want—and the effects ripple out everywhere.
 

Love to you...

Gail

Note: Our next Coming Home zoom gathering will be on Wednesday, March 27 from 9-10:30am Pacific. This event is free, and all are welcome as we explore, Freedom Beyond the Sense of the Separate Self. Please click here for details and registration.

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