be always doubting your ability to get what you long for
is like trying to reach east by traveling west.”
~ Charles Baudouin
I am convinced
that one of the most common places we practice
reverse psychology is on ourselves!
the past week, I was taking notes and here are some examples:
who wants to quit and details her quitting plan
over a cigarette.
***The woman who
says she wants true love in her life but stays
in a relationship that is unfulfilling.
professional who wants to reach the top but then watches
the clock and never works a minute over forty hours her week.
who wants better communication with their children
but doesn’t have time to talk.
who feels a need to express herself but never
carves out time for creativity.
I am sure you can add some to this list.
How silly we are
to live these contradictions in our life and
then wonder, “what is bothering me?” or “why do I feel unfulfilled?”
I am not saying
that I have never done this in my own life –
I have! I know
exactly what the problem
is – I am not taking action steps that align with my desires. And I know there is only
one way to fix it. Either
scrap the desire (which is impossible
with a true, core desire) or fix the action steps.
If we don’t, we
end up like today’s quote – always traveling
east while trying to get west or vice versa.
Of course, I suppose if you travel east long enough, you’ll eventually
end up in the west – but what a bumpy, long, and indirect trip – and
waste of time.
spotlight on your own life. What true
desire do you have where your actions directly contradict the
desire? Who do you blame for it? What do you chalk
it up to? How long has this been happening in your
life? Can you see the freedom that comes
from owning the responsibility and righting your action?
Decide whether you have outgrown the desire
or if you action steps are wrong. Then
own all of my problems. I own all of my