Love For Successful Women Newsletter, October 2011

Published: Thu, 10/20/11

Vol. 1 No. 3
October 2011
What Core Values Mean to Love
"Core values are like a GPS that keep us on track to love and guide us back when we veer off our path."

hy are core values important?

Core values form the foundation on which we live and conduct ourselves.  When we are in alignment with our core values, we know the direction our life is heading and what is important to us.  We experience more peace, self confidence and well-being.    

Without core values, we find ourselves drifting from relationship to relationship or staying in unhealthy relationships and never really feeling fulfilled.  We will accept less than we deserve and make decisions because of what our partner said or did rather than who we are and what is important to us.

When we don't consciously define our core values, we let people, places or things outside of us sway our decisions.  In love relationships, this shows up when we react or respond to the whims of our partner.  We use our confusion, uncertainty and doubt to rationalize our partner's bad behavior and question his actions, even though we know we deserve better.  

What if you knew for certain what is or is not acceptable to you when it comes to love?  Imagine how much easier it would be to respect yourself, set boundaries, take solid action and make sound decisions.  The challenge and opportunity lies in knowing what's most important for you to have in your love relationship and partner so you can spend more time enjoying rather than questioning your relationship.  

How do I define my core values?

Core values influence everything we do or don't and may not be in our awareness. They are standards that greatly influence our behavior, attitude and character.  These values are deeply personal and affect our emotional and mental disposition.  Since these values guide us in making decisions and affect our relationships, it is important to clearly know what they are. 

If you would like better results in your love life, take the time to consciously define, clarify and live your core values.  Grab a pencil and paper, and answer these questions:
  • Who am I when I am at my best?  How am I being?
  • What are my personal characteristics and strengths when I feel full of energy, most engaged in life and inspired?  
  • Who has had the greatest influence on me and what are their positive characteristics?
  • Who do I admire?  What do I admire about that person? 
  • How do friends and family describe me? 
  • What do I love about myself?
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A Better Practice

Your relationship has 3 entities - you, your partner and your relationship.  If your relationship were a shape, it would be a triangle where you and your partner form the base and your relationship is the top.  If you can both do and keep things in the best interest of your relationship, you will sustain a happy and healthy love life.

One way to keep your relationship the focus is to define with your partner, 5-7 shared core values you both want to experience in your relationship.  When you and your partner are committed to these core values, you'll both feel loved and fulfilled.  And, you'll be creating your true love story.

Good to the Core

Core values shape our character and determine our destiny.  While we want to live our values and have good intentions of doing so, we sometimes get caught up in life and drift in a direction that takes us further away. Click here to watch "Good to the Core".  This will inspire you to identify, own and live your core values.  

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