How to Manage Anxiety the Right Way
The first step in managing anxiety is recognizing it (making sure it's anxiety and not worry), identifying the feeling of dread and the worse-case-scenario thinking. Then follow
these steps:
1. Label it. Remind yourself that what you're feeling is anxiety and therefore, the negative outcomes that feel looming and inevitable are in fact unlikely and not immediate. Each time you feel anxious, tell yourself, 'this is anxiety' and therefore I have to question what my mind is telling me.
2. Decatastrophize: Remind yourself that the
likelihood of the worse case scenario is very small and than many things need to go wrong before it occurs, each of which is also less likely than anxiety is making you believe it to be.
3. Slow your breathing: Anxiety causes us to breathe in shallow and rapid ways which makes us feel even more anxious. Place one hand on your chest and another on your belly and breathe in slowly to the count of 4 (4 seconds--use a clock
to count), hold your breath for 2 seconds, exhale to the count of 4, hold again for 2 seconds. Make sure to fill and empty your lungs and for your belly to extend on inhales so you're not breathing from your chest. Do this for 3 minutes at least.
4. Problem solve: Is there anything you can/should do to address the immediate issue directly? For example, if you're anxious about a presentation at work going badly--can you work
on it further or practice more?
5. Distract: Check your breathing to make sure it's slowed and repeat the breathing exercise if not. Then try to resume what you were doing or to distract yourself away from the issue that's making you anxious by doing something that requires concentration. 22% of responders to last month's poll say they use this technique--great.
Over time, train yourself to label anxious thoughts with an inner tone, like you're catching someone trying to trick you--which is what anxiety does--so that it's easier to dismiss them.