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September 2023

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What People are Saying

“This book is an absolute gem!

“Marshall’s voice is loud and clear. Organized by topics, this book offers us a way

into the heart of Marshall’s teachings.

“It dispels any doubt about NVC being a way of life, more than a system of

communication. And it clarifies that NVC is a spirituality that inclines toward social change for the benefit of all.

“Brilliant.”

—STEPHANIE BACHMANN MATTEI, coauthor of The Heart of Nonviolent Communication, certified trainer and assessor with CNVC, and certified teacher in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction

It’s now possible to contribute to and collaborate with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) through Supporting Membership. 

As a supporting member you are part of a growing movement of like-minded people impacted by NVC. 

Supporting Membership benefits:

• official alignment with the global home of NVC
• discounts on immersive trainings
• provide input to shape CNVC's future
• invitation to a free online annual gathering
• members-only video library

Together, we’re speaking the language of the heart.

Together, we’re creating the world our intuition knows is possible.

Together, we’re at home in the global home of NVC.

"SCHOOLING TEACHES US to dehumanize human beings by thinking of what they are, rather than what they need. "

Marshall Rosenberg

Articles

How does Nonviolent Communication (NVC) address issues of censorship, including book banning?

Censorship is the suppression or prohibition of ideas, writing, speech, or other forms of expression.

NVC is a process that emphasizes the use of dialog to create mutual understanding, cultivate good-will, and make mutually satisfying outcomes more readily attainable.

NVC can shed new light on the most contentious issues, providing new possibilities for breakthroughs.

NVC has tools in three areas:

1. self-connection, for greater clarity about your own feelings, motivations, values, and desires;
2. empathy, so that you and others experience being heard and understood, and;
3. authentic self-expression — also known as honesty — which contributes to being understood as well as helping others feel connected to what is true and real for you.

Through a process of empathy and honesty, NVC helps you create mutual understanding — beyond judgments about rightness and wrongness — leading to the possibility of co- creating mutually satisfying outcomes.

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Straddling the garden bed, I reach around each Swiss chard plant with a sharp knife poised in one hand. I brush my fingers between the leaves, looking for the thin, brown, patchy evidence of leaf miners. The dry membranes left behind by these microscopic creatures once flummoxed me as I wondered why my plants were dying.

On the world wide web, I have learned that these hungry little mites multiply nearly as fast as they eat. One of the best ways to protect a bed of Swiss chard is to harvest every leaf that shows signs of being dined upon. Today, I gather green leaves with one or two blemishes to steam for lunch. Nowadays, we share, the leaf miners and I. Honoring us both is in alignment with my practice of Nonviolent Communication.

Ever make a seemingly reasonable request of someone and had them get their back up in reaction? Or had someone respond in a way making tragically clear they misunderstood what you’re asking? Or, perhaps worse, they appeared to agree yet didn’t follow through – or later denied you ever asked them?

Or maybe you've been on the other end? You’re blind-sided, discovering someone’s resentful or angry at you for your not having done something (perhaps something you might’ve been willing to do) but you can't remember they asked -- or you do recall they expressed something about it, but certainly you’d never agreed to it?

I've sure have been on both ends. Sure, it could be something about others that explains such bollixes – but often when I've done an autopsy on the resulting mess it became clear if I had more skill at making requests (or, more important, if I'd been conscious of whether I was subtly demanding rather than requesting) my message might’ve gotten through -- Or at least I’d have known it didn’t and avoided the disappointment based on my mistaken assumption that it had.

"WHEN PEOPLE HEAR needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack."

Marshall Rosenberg

Book Specials

Poem

Appreciation, for all their gifts.

Balance, not too little, not too much.

Commitment, be there for them.

Dreams, to touch the future.

Empathy, to be heard and cared for.

Family and friends, we all need love.

Guidance, to help them find their way.

Healthy habits, to lead a healthy life.

Inspiration, to be all they can be.

Joyful childhood memories.

Kindness, little things mean a lot.

Limits, make agreements together.

Mentors, to give wings to dreams.

Nature, to delight in rainbow butterflies.

Opportunities, to make their hearts sing.

Play, the “ work” of childhood.

Quiet time, to recharge their batteries.

Respect, to be ‘Seen and Heard.’

Security, to help them feel safe.

Teachers, to lead by example.

Unconditional love, to thrive.

Values, they learn what they live.

Words of hope and support.

Xoxoxo’s, every chance you get.

You, ‘your presence’ more than presents.

Zzzzzzzs, a good night’s sleep.

© Meiji Stewart

"AS A GIRAFFE, you’re conscious that you never do anything wrong. . . . It’s probably the hardest thing about giraffe—to be aware that we never do anything wrong. We’re doing the best we can each moment."

Marshall Rosenberg

Handouts

• NVC Summary of Basic Concepts
• Key Facts About NVC
• The 4-Part NVC Process
• Feelings and Needs We All Have
• Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings from John Kinyon © John Kinyon, NVC trainer and author of Mediate Your Life
• First Gen NVCers - This is a link to the website and resources of First Generation NVCers, a group of individuals certified by Marshall before 1990. First Generation NVCers want to transmit NVC as they received it from Marshall. Their website shares their experiences with Marshall and learnings from him, plus stories about how CNVC & NVC developed.

• Cascadia Workshops – Intro to NVC Handout
• Street Giraffe – Handy Handouts
• NVC Next Gen – NVC Informational Handouts
• Radical Compassion – NVC Handouts
• Nonviolent Communication Handouts
• Marshall Rosenberg NVC Handouts
• Marshall Rosenberg Videos on Youtube

"THE MORE UGLY the judgment, the more beautiful the need behind it."

Marshall Rosenberg

Humor

Concept and © Meiji Stewart

Illustrated by Jeff Kahn

Concept by Meiji Stewart. Illustrated by David Blaisdell.

Book Excerpts

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"NEVER QUESTION THE beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you. "

Marshall Rosenberg

Resources

NVC in the News

• A glance into the genius Microsoft brain with these 8 Satya Nadella books recommendations - Lifestyle Asia
• Giraffe Center Bangladesh holds training on conflict resolution - Dhaka Tribune
• The Concept of Nonviolent Communications is driving social change through empathy - SocialStory

"Understanding the other persons’ needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs."

Marshall Rosenberg

Learning

The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.

Visit the NVC Academy

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.

Visit CNVC.org/Trainings

"Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs."

Marshall Rosenberg

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