5 sure fireways to make conflict worse

Published: Wed, 01/13/16

Start the new year conquering
what may be one of your habits.
Work to keep heads cool and effective.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
~ Haruki Murakami

There are opportunities every day to engage in some form of conflict.

Someone cuts you off while driving. The customer service rep on the phone gives you the runaround. Your co-worker undermines you in a meeting. A friend lets you down on a promise made.

If you are human, you probably have your own special knee-jerk response that can show up, big or small, depending on what's going on.

Want to prevent conflict? Don’t do these things.

For some reason it is easier for me to describe what to avoid, rather than how to creatively deal with conflict. Probably because I’m thinking of all the times I made a mess of things.

Blame.

I’m working on letting go of being incensed at someone who owes me money. Someone who has been stringing me along. For months. The real truth is that I didn’t get enough in writing. And from the beginning something didn’t feel right. I was naive in my trust. I read somewhere recently the vehemence of our blame is often... [Click here to read the rest of the article. Learn about how important it is to avoid jumping to conclusions, acting from entitlement, nurturing that chip on your shoulder and getting into someone else's business.].

Image adapted from Aleksey Sergeychik.
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About Mary Schaefer: Speaker, coach, trainer, consultant and Chief Encouragement Officer for everyone interested in their own professional development and advancement. My belief about the key to great performance at work is empowerment. I say: "Your success and the success of those around you depends on you empowering yourself first." Click here to find out more about what this can mean for you.

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