Statistically...this is the #1 Predictor of Divorce (why do we put up with it?)

Published: Tue, 12/28/21

Hey,

It's a pretty ominous title, I know. But it's true.

Backed by John Gottman's statistical marriage research (did this really need research?)...this relationship behavior is the #1 predictor of divorce.

What is is it?

It's CONTEMPT.

Contempt (noun): the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.

It's a fancy word for the hateful actions, spiteful words or negative regard one person has toward another.

Have you ever been on the receiving end of it? How about the giving end?

As I explain in this video, contempt has many faces.

Sometimes it's disguised as common sarcasm, cynicism or "just kidding".

When it's done with the intent to criticize, judge or shame someone...it's almost always coming from a place of fear.

This fear is usually based in a feeling of shame - a fear that you are actually unworthy.

As Brene Brown points out in her book Men, Women and Worthiness, when someone is shaming another you can bet it's about something they feel shame about within themselves.

This is extremely important to understand whether you're on the receiving or giving end of contempt.

Watch the video for more information about contempt and how to stop it.

The Subconscious Mistake Which Erodes Her Trust in You

Contemptuous thinking and speaking is the worst of the 4 "poisons" in your relationship.

It is usually preceded by other early indicators of big trouble.

In our How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb online course, we dive into each of them in detail. Check out this video from the actual course to get a quick lesson that will help you to start reversing the negative downward spiral in your marriage.

The Four Horsemen of Divorce

There is specific knowledge, a specific mindset and specific "man skills" required to reverse a negative spiral.

And these are things nearly no man has learned from his father.

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Happy Holidays, brother,

Steve & Tim

P.S. Here's a common question guys ask us about this course and it has to do with your wife.

Should I let my wife know I'm doing this course and share parts of it with her?

In most cases we will say, "No, not yet." Unless you're in a very healthy place with a wife who is secure, empathetic and willing to do her own work, it's not beneficial to tell her all about this course and what you're learning.

Wives at this point know talk is very cheap. Consistent actions and conscious behavioral changes on your part are the only things she'll believe and trust.

If you must tell her something or if she demands to know what you're doing, simply say, "Babe, I've decided the only thing I can do to help our relationship is to become a better version of me. For the first time in my life, I'm focusing on what I bring to the party instead of complaining about everyone else."

Talking too much and having long, deep, heavy conversations are actually counter-productive. We explain why in the course.