Tarot Tips: Listening / Throwing Dem Bones / Connecting to Clients
Published: Wed, 07/01/20
"It's one thing to listen to a person attentively..."
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http://TarotSchool.com ISSN: 1529-0565 Vol. 12 #8 / July 1, 2020
In this Issue: - Welcome
- Tarot Tip: Listening - Tarot School Aphorism - What's Gnu? - Diviner's Corner: Throwing Dem Bones - Best Practices: Customizing Your Connection To Clients Welcome to a new issue of Tarot Tips!
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![]() The diverse, creative and caring souls that make up the tarot community (and beyond) is one of the things we love best. We have always done what we can to honor and serve every one of you. In an ideal world, social justice and acceptance would be a given. But since that is sadly not the case, we stand with everyone fighting to make that vision a reality and continue to do our best. One thing that can make a big difference is taking the time to really listen to one another. As tarot readers, we know how important it is to listen to our querents in order to give them a reading that addresses their needs. This month’s Tip, written by the late Thomas Leonard of Coach U., takes a well-considered look at the topic, with helpful hints on how to be better listeners — to our querents and to each other. The Diviner's Corner takes a brief look at bone divination, and Best Practices spotlights how to maintain a sense of connection with your in-person clients in the new norm of social distancing. And one more thing...
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LISTENING
by Thomas Leonard © 2001 Coach U. ![]() [Editor's Note: This column by the late Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach U. originally appeared in Coaching Tips and was written for a professional coaching audience. I feel, as readers, we do very similar work and believe that you may find the following interesting and useful. - RA] IT'S ONE THING to listen to a person attentively. This is nice and it's polite. However, the art of actually hearing someone, understanding what they are saying, what they mean, what that means, and then responding to that borders on an advanced art form. All of this, of course, plus plenty of wisdom, compassion, strength and encouragement, is the communication skill-set that the Certified Coach is expected to master. And which the Certified Coach effortlessly does with clients. The specific focus of this tip is to understand the idea that there are certain things to listen for as you listen to what your client is saying and not saying. I used to be so overwhelmed at all that I was hearing when listening to clients, that I sat down one day and made up a big list, which includes 225 things that humans say and don't say when they communicate, and each one matters. Why? Because the more fully you hear your client, the faster and better you can serve them. I'm a believer in the notion that humans don't articulate themselves very well, on one hand, due to lack of vocabulary to describe what they are feeling or wanting to say. And, on the other hand, due to the fact that most of us aren't even aware what we are experiencing, feeling, needing or wanting. A child psychologist once told me that the reason that young kids throw tantrums (other than as a device to get what they need) is that what they are feeling -- frustration, anger, etc. -- is far bigger than their ability to phrase it, so their bodies take over to release the energy/anger because their level of awareness and facility with words isn't great enough. The amazing thing to me is that adults aren't that much more advanced than kids are. We adults still throw our tantrums, or pout or clam up. And, for the same reasons -- we just don't know all that we're feeling nor do we know how to effectively say what there is to say. As a coach, then, what you are able to do for a client, every client, is to hear what they are trying to say and to help them to say it. Here's a list of the primary types of things you can become an expert at listening for: 1. What's not being said. 2. What's needed right now. 3. What's lacking. 4. What's in the way. 5. What's most important to the client. 6. What false assumptions the client has made. 7. How well/quickly the client is grasping what you're saying. 8. How aware the client is of themselves and their environment. Sound like a lot to do and hear? It is, actually. But after a year or two of training and experience, you'll be able to listen fully and respond appropriately to all of the above areas, within seconds. And, you'll be able to filter out what isn't relevant and be able to prioritize what is. There are really two steps to becoming an expert listener. One is to learn how to listen and what to listen for, as described above. The other is to identify and reduce what gets in the way of your ability to hear. Just as it's difficult to hear a client very well when you've got the music on loud next to your phone, so is it very difficult to hear the client when your mind and body are making lots of noise. You can reduce the din by working on your Personal Foundation. When your needs are met and you've resolved stuff that makes emotional noise, you can really become an extraordinary listener. Tarot School Aphorism ![]() ![]() WORLDWIDE METAPHYSICAL TRIBE VIRTUAL EVENT ![]() Wald Amberstone will be joining a panel of metaphysical practitioners to discuss the way we can all be of help to the world during this time of trouble. According to Deb Freuh, founder of the Worldwide Metaphysical Tribe, “Someday the world is going to turn to US - the metaphysicians and the healers - and ask us what the answers are.' Our time is now. This is what we came for.” The group is taking its annual live event to you this year via a fun Zoom Experience on August 15th and 16th. This is not the same as your average Zoom meeting. It’s a 2-day interactive event full of engaging conversation, breakout groups and interactive activities. Each ticket comes with a fabulous swag bag mailed to you. If you purchase your ticket by July 26, you should receive it in time to interact in the event. If you purchase after July 26, you'll still receive the swag, but perhaps not in time. Nevertheless, there is something special about the swag bag, and you'll reap the reward either way. For full details and to register go to https://ezregister.com/events/32270/ NOTE: Please enter “Wald Amberstone” in the PayPal comment section when you register so he can get credit for your attendance. Diviner's Corner THROWING DEM BONES ![]() Throwing the bones or bone scrying can be found in many cultures around the globe. Though there is no standard way to practice divination by bones, most practitioners follow traditions based on their ancestral roots. Animal bones are obviously utilized but some practitioners include shells, nuts and other sentimental trinkets. In bone divination, a true connection to the Spirit world comes through carrying messages from the ancestors. In China, bone readings were used with pyromancy, or divination with fire, in which the scapula of an ox or other large animal was heated until cracking occurred. This cracking sound was interpreted to answer concerns of the future. The meanings of items used in a bone “kit” are rooted in the understandings of the animal and botanical worlds. Practitioners are able to elicit advice and guidance based on the pattern that thrown bones fall. Bone kits are very personal and customized to the practitioner and thus, in the true tradition, no set is ever alike. Readers choose and pick as many bones as they have at their disposal. Sometimes only bones from a specific animal are used. In modern times, dominos, dice or chess pieces are added by personal choice. Questioning the bones works like other divination tools. Some practitioners have rituals that range from simple to elaborate before starting a bone reading. Some like to work primarily with the supernatural or ancestral spirits, while other take a more methodical, organized approach. Resource: • Throwing The Bones: How To Make And Use A Bone Set by Avery Hart https://bit.ly/3fZy5Ma We’d love your suggestion or submissions for this column! If you have an idea or would love to contribute, please contact us at [email protected]. Best Practices for Professional Readers CUSTOMIZING YOUR CONNECTION TO CLIENTS By Gina Thies www.tarotadvisor.com / www.facebook.com/tarotreaders www.tarotcoupling.com / www.oraclesoup.org In the recent rush to open the country to get to business as usual and boost the economy, there is the hard realization that not all physical businesses that rely on in-person transactions and physical presence will operate the same, if ever. Industries that host conferences and live seminars will change. Insurance companies have had to rewrite covering doctor’s visit through telemedicine. Increasingly people are not feeling safe or comfortable enough to venture out for fear of risking their health. I have had to rethink ways of reading at live events. The virtual readings parties are fun but for as long as I’ve done events, I do miss meeting new people and having them experience a live reading for the first time. I enjoy creating memories and paying attention to details of themes and décor for events. You and your clients may miss the physical part of being in the same space. There is a great comfort in what you may have created in your reading space so that clients feel at peace and relaxed. I have had potential clients decline appointments if I could not see them in person. When you work with clients over a long period, a bond forms. If you get accustomed to seeing a person regularly, it happens. Therapists know this all too well. I think that the connections we form with clients are important, as we may be the best chance of support in their lives. I was thinking about how many readers may have suffered a decline in client visits due to financial woes, COVID-19 fears and isolation. It can be understood that support may be missed. Many experience loneliness, isolation and other ways that division is at the forefront of societal ills. There is a way to keep boundaries in place and let your clients know they are important no matter what they are going through. How can you be there without being there? My mentor, whom I’ve known for over 25 years, has imparted wisdom to me for much of what I do in my tarot business today. In past sessions, she follows up by good old-fashioned postal mail. She has mailed everything from cards, pens, calendars and books to me; all with shameless self-promotion in mind, but the mere fact she did, and accompanied it with a handwritten message, was always a special touch. When you make your clients feel appreciated and can do so in a customized way, it works! I have had to get back to making sure I have a client’s physical addresses and noting something that is meaningful to my clients. Nowadays the focus is on email collection for the purpose of mass marketing and contact, which is a necessity for business. However, as we find ways to survive in the new norm, getting back to some basic ways of connecting with clients may be the refreshing boost your business needs. Resource: • Redefining customer experience: Connecting in the time of COVID-19 https://bit.ly/2BK0WVF Join our 11,000+ fans and join the fun!
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