[X&Y] 3 Ways To Know How Others See You <--Learn This Skill

Published: Mon, 04/08/24


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WHAT'S INSIDE:  You may already deserve more of what you
want than you think.  Read this...you'll be glad you did.

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DO WOMEN SPONTANEOUSLY SMILE AT YOU?


Today we're talking about how others see you.

But what if it's as if no women see you AT ALL...or worse,
ignoring you if they do?

Isn't it frustrating to read articles telling you about women's
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Playing with her hair? Smiling at you when you see her in the
supermarket? I mean, is ANYONE actually smiling at the grocery
store these days?.

I used to read that and think, "Come on, the last time I walked
past a woman and she smiled at me was...NEVER."

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3 WAYS TO KNOW HOW OTHERS SEE YOU


So many of us hold fast to the limiting believe that we can't possibly
deserve the kind of woman we want.  

Going way beyond "approach anxiety" or anything else commonly
taught out there, I believe much of the problem is directly attributable
to how we see ourselves vs. how we see others.

Here's what I mean.

Part of the miracle of life is you only exist as yourself.  You only see
light through your own eyes.

And you know every intimate detail of your own thoughts, fears and
weaknesses.  

You're also well-acquainted your own darkest secrets.

Every imperfection.  Every prurient thought.  Every doubt.

And everything else that would bring utter humiliation if others found
out.

Armed with this knowledge, what do you do?  You go out and become
completely disarmed by a beautiful and apparently "perfect"
creature of the other gender.  In your mind, she is flawless.

Then comes the vortex of self-doubt.  

"Oh man...I could never be in HER league.  She's a veritable vision
of perfection...and I can't even get into an elevator without feeling
claustrophobic, come from a foreign country, need a haircut, have a
big nose, have spring allergies, say stupid things when nervous,
masturbate twice a day, chew my toenails in private and/or once
cheated on a math test."

So once again you talk yourself out of being successful.

Meanwhile, your "vision of perfection" is inside her own state of
being thinking, "Girl...get yourself together!  Your panty lines are
showing, you have stupid looking ears, are habitually late for
work, snort when you laugh, have two crooked teeth and wear
contact lenses.  No wonder you've been dateless for a month now!"

Crazy stuff, isn't it?  If only we could see inside each other's
heads.  Better yet, if only we could read the thoughts of others
regarding US.

Well, you can't do that. There's no "cartoon bubble" or holographic
screen hovering over other people's heads revealing all their
personal foibles.

But here are three simple exercises you CAN do:


 
1)  Eliminate private knowledge as a "limiting factor"


First and foremost, realize that your private thoughts are NOT
public.  Nobody else can evaluate you by them, so STOP using them
against yourself.  They do not exist in the minds of others because
they CANNOT.  

Then, come to grips with the simple reality that we are ALL
the same in this respect.  Quite literally every other human being
on the planet has their own host of insecurities and dark-secrets
they're desperately hiding from the light of day.

Although you're intimately aware of your own, you can't see theirs.

...And vice-versa.

So no, you're not some sort of freakish exception.  Everyone else
is at least as messed-up as we are.

Simply put, rock-solid self-esteem is HARD to achieve apart from
this mindset...and much, much easier when you embrace it.



 
2)  Take notes regarding how others respond to you


In case it's not obvious, random haters who zing you with a unique
criticism you've never really heard before should be flatly-ignored.

But when you hear patterns repeated, it may be time to give honest
consideration to what you are hearing.  If multiple people--especially
those who care about you--are pointing to a common way you can
better yourself, DO SO and deserve what you want.

Similarly, if you hear recurring positive comments and/or see
recurring positive reactions to your presence and/or interactions,
begin to recognize the truly positive manner in which others perceive
you.  

This sounds so simplistic, yet how many of us go home and obsess
over self-perceived "negatives" that we are repeatedly told are
positives?  Weird, right? 

If in doubt, begin to pay careful attention to this dynamic in your
life.  Note the PATTERNS that you detect, and trust them.


 
3)  Pretend you are walking in the shoes of someone you
find attractive


Okay, here's the "power ball".  Ready?  

My guess is when you encounter a woman who really pegs your
sexual attraction levels, she's actually more "perfectly imperfect"
than literally "perfect".   

The next time you are practically paralyzed by attraction, I want
you pretend for a moment that you're HER instead of yourself.  

In your darkest, most self-critical thoughts, what would you be
most self-conscious about?  

Despite your blind attraction, make an effort to approach that
concept with sober judgment.  

You will likely identify an entire litany of faults and potential
attitudes that would make her VERY insecure, at least theoretically.  

Ironically, you may find yourself recognizing traits and/or features
that some people may be self-critical about but which are at the
same time EXACTLY what is making you so hot for her.  It's
strange for sure.  But it is an eye opener.



What we're really exposing here is a dark corner of human
arrogance.  

We somehow believe that our own self-pronounced judgments both
AGAINST ourselves and FOR others somehow carry greater weight
than everyone else's, don't we?  

That's exactly what ends up limiting us, yet really yours or mine is
only one of over seven billion different perspectives--be it towards
ourselves or others.  

Allow yourself to open up to seeing others' perspectives for a
change.  

Do so and enjoy the shock when you finally do meet someone who
knocks you out...and you realize very quickly as you get to know
her that many of the insecurities you saw from their potential
perspective are actually there.  

And feel the power and joy of being able to share with her what
others--namely YOU--see instead.  How cool is that?

Usually you'll hear me harp on deserving what you want.  But
today I've let you in on a secret:  You may already deserve WAY,
WAY more than you have been giving yourself credit for.


Be Good,

Scot McKay


P.S.  I've had a deeper discussion of this very topic with several
Ten-Plus guys lately.  If you suspect your sticking points go way
beyond what simple books and programs teach, it's time to
schedule a quick call with me to see if 1-on-1 coaching is right for
you:


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P.P.S.  Looking for a solid community of great guys to talk about
the deeper (and sometimes more challenging) topics of women,
masculinity and attraction with?

Join us at the Mountain Top Summit Facebook group:


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