Wayne, aged 67, didn’t have a choice when his wife decided not to prolong her life after she was
diagnosed with breast cancer 10 years ago. Wayne was now faced with a similar choice for himself. His cardiologist instructed him to go to the Emergency Department (ED) to have fluid drained from his lung cavity that resulted from recent pneumonia, which led to sepsis. The cardiologist wanted Wayne in tip-top shape before implanting a pacemaker into his heart.
Wayne's daughter Jodi asked, "Will the pacemaker prolong his life?" "Of course," said the ED doctor. To which she replied, "Hmm. The cardiologist said it wouldn’t." Wayne and Jodi seemed confused. Which doctor should they believe? Wayne seemed focused on the past and his wife's courageous choice not to prolong her life.
While lying on the ED gurney, experiencing the tension of a life-and-death conversation, Wayne could freely choose to take or to leave having a pacemaker. Jodi and the ED doctor had no intention of outwardly debating the
pros and cons, potentially biasing Wayne's decision. The decision to prolong life or die naturally was going to be up to Wayne.
The following are three ways for
Wayne to foster courage regarding this
decision: