How to Have More Good Male Friends

Published: Sun, 11/21/21

Hey,

Real quick. Tell me how this feels to you.

"Hey buddy, I was driving around today and you just popped into my head. Seriously. It was out of the blue and it made me wonder how you're doing. What's new with you lately? And don't just tell me you're "fine". I've been busy being busy and that's getting old. I'd like to get together for lunch next Friday at the pub and catch up with you. If you're open, how does noon sound? Miss you, brother."

I don't know about you, but when I get an unexpected text message or email like that from someone it just feels good.

Sometimes I feel guilty because I feel that people sometimes reach out to me more than I reach out to them.

I want to be a better friend. And I want to make sure I have a collection of high quality men in my circle.

If the old saying is true..."We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with"...then who are you planning to spend time with?

For many years I would simply end up hanging out with husbands of my wife's girlfriends. Or I would just spend a lot of time alone.

Here's what I think is a MUCH better mindset.

If we want more good male friends in our life...we must learn how to be a good male friend.

I'm in England again to be with my buddy Dan Dore for some work...and little "beer and pie". We talk more about being a better friend in this video.

How to Have More Good Male Friends

It's very simple...but not easy.

There is nothing complicated about this message...but I know how damn hard it is to be consistent.

* We wonder if we're bothering people.

* We assume they have better things to do than talk with us.

* We (this means ME) get lazy as hell and believe it's easier to just be alone.

Let's start out slowly. Pick ONE of the ideas below and do it in the next 24 hours. (Or make one up of your own) Reply to this email to tell me if you did it.

Important: We don't care what response you get. It's your effort that matters. GIVE one of these away today.

Hey mom (or wife), I don't when I last told you how much I love you and how much I appreciate you. So, here it is. I love you and appreciate more than you know!

Hey bro, this cartoon cracked me up. I thought you would like it. You're the only person in my life who laughs at this stuff like I do. I hope you're doing well. I miss you.

Hey (friend name), I'm dying to get out of the house and go (name the place/activity). I'd love it if you would join me so we can catch up with each other. I appreciate hanging out with you, man.

I know! Simple...but not easy.

What will they think? What will they say? How will I look?

Who gives a sh*t?

When we want to reach out, we do.

When we want to be a friend, we do.

And when we want to express appreciation, we just do.

No pressure. No apologies. No expectations.

I'll look for your email reply to see what you decided to do and who was the recipient of your friendly gesture.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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