A healthy response vs. an unhealthy response.
A consistent part of our coaching methodology for men is to teach you how to RESPOND vs. REACT.
A fearful, angry, butt-hurt reaction system will follow you everywhere you go. And how you react to one thing in your life is how you probably react to most things in your life.
Most of those comments have an unhealthy vibe because they are dripping in fear and victimhood.
They are full of personal offense, anger and panic. (all things a healthy mountain lion never shows).
Is there a time to send someone packing out of your life forever? Sure is!
And I hope you have a clear and healthy connection to those standards (we teach that too). I kind of like the guy who said "Walk away. Hold no anger." Now, that's more like a mountain lion.
The biggest problem with a man over-reacting to the "I need space" request is this:
He assumes everything about HER is actually about HIM. He's got an insecure and slightly arrogant view of himself and his role in her happiness.
There are other people we know like this. You may have a couple in your own house. They are called teenagers.
If you're facing a woman who has become cold, disconnected, disinterested, disrespectful and/or totally emotionally unavailable...you do have a problem on your hands.
And it's going to take a man to sort it out...not a boy.
The man may end up helping her to reconnect...or he may pack his bags.
Point is...whatever decision he makes MUST be made with a "man brain"..."not a hurt little boy brain". (I was 50 when I was introduced to that little f*cker)
My mission is to help YOU find your man brain. That strong, confident, clear and calm brain that makes good decisions, based on mature thinking and regulated emotions.
It sets us free. Seriously. Free of all the previous emotional BS we used to deal with.
And it will most definitely boost your marriage - your fathering and your business/career like rocket fuel.
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