Why Trying to Not Get Divorced Will Actually CAUSE Your Divorce

Published: Sun, 10/16/22

Hey,

When it comes to the things you really, really want are you "outcome dependent"?

Outcome dependence is the number one cause of unbridled neediness.

And neediness almost always leads to excessively controlling behavior.

In your relationships, controlling behavior is a death sentence.

Outcome dependence is not to be confused with being "goal oriented". Many of us dudes have tried to defend ourselves by claiming, "Well, I'm a goal setter and I like to make things happen. What wrong with having goals?!"

There's a big difference between making personal or business goals happen and making someone else like us, love us, touch us or want to be with us.

A man's secret fear of divorce is one example of outcome dependence. It's not just that he desires a long, healthy, happy marriage...he absolutely, positively requires it.

There are no other options. His very life and well-being depend on it. And because of this dependence he will do anything to control the outcome.

The problem is that we can't control an outcome without trying to control every person involved in that outcome.

I made this video to give you another way to think about "outcome dependence" and how you can stop trying to control other and increase your own self-respect.

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Did Your Wife Call You “Controlling”? Here’s Probably Why

The fastest way to drop neediness and instantly become more attractive is to learn how to drop your desire to control others.

When great men first see the wisdom in this they say things like:

"I now get nauseated to watch myself show up as a needy guy. I'm starting to catch myself before I try to control someone else."

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Here's the cold, hard truth.

Arguing about stupid things is controlling.
Over-explaining yourself is controlling.
Excessive care-taking of others is controlling.
Stonewalling is controlling.
Defensiveness is controlling.
Criticism is controlling.
Yelling and throwing shit is controlling.
Needing to be right is controlling.
And always "having a point to make" is controlling.

Your homework for this week is to see if you can catch yourself being controlling.

Then ask yourself, "What outcome do I depend on that is making me behave this way?"

Then ask yourself, "Who do I get to be if I let go of my dependence on that outcome?"

I'm interested to hear about what you see.

Hit reply to this email and let me know how you're doing.

I want you to feel the power of outcome independence and the release of the anxiety that comes with trying to control others.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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Steven Horsmon

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