Why Most Men Never Get the Intimacy They Want

Published: Sun, 02/05/23

Hey brother,

This hurt me bad.

In 2013, I asked a popular men's coach (Alex Allman) why he thought my wife never gave me the kind (and amount) of intimacy I wanted.

He looked me right in the eye...almost amused, and said,

"Because you're not yet the kind of guy who gets that stuff."

My knee jerk reaction tempted me to say, "Well, f*ck you, Alex!"

But he meant it with kindness and compassion. He explained that it's every man's journey.

Moving from a mostly insecure, anxious and frustrated masculine frame to a calm, deliberate and pleased frame was a challenge nobody ever explained to me.

That was 10 years ago. And I've been teaching men how to win this battle ever since. When the light comes on for you, you're going to shake your head in amazement.

At that moment you'll get it.

You will know why you were trying so hard and how to shift your thinking so everything happens easier than ever.

And then you'll be the kind of man who gets what he wants.

Let me explain more "in person" in this video.

Why Most Men Never Get the Intimacy They Want

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Why Intimate Men Always Have More Intimacy

The FIRST problem I had in my marriage was that I considered there to be only one synonym for "intimacy". And that was SEX.

Yep. I had the dreaded disease called "Sex Brain".

My brain measured the concepts of love, connection, compassion, empathy, affection and intimacy with ONE gauge. The SEX GAUGE.

And if my gauge went from zero to ten, I would begin to show signs insecurity, anxiety and frustration when the gauge dropped below seven.

What I've learned over the last 10 years is that women (including my partner), want to experience ALL KINDS of intimacy, with a safe, confident man who is pleased with himself.

In other words, the "kind of man who gets a lot of intimacy all the time".

My problem was that I didn't understand that TRUE INTIMACY goes a lot deeper than touching and getting touched in the bedroom.

Here are some examples of intimacy most men never master, therefore, they never get the intimacy they want.

Laughing without restraint
Crying without shame
Sharing without hiding
Listening without judging
Dancing without "GAF" who's watching
Being vulnerable without fear
Being quiet when you don't know what to say
Touching without needing to be touched
Backing off without feeling abandoned
Accepting without disappointment
Empathizing without shaming
Connecting without a hidden agenda
Loving without strings
Making love with a fully open heart and body

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All of those things fall under the umbrella of intimacy. And you probably noticed the sexual form of intimacy wasn't at the top of the list.

Do you have any gauges that measure the other forms of intimacy?
Are you consciously aware of how you are CREATING intimacy on a daily basis?
Do you know when you're likely sabotaging intimacy?
Do you want to become the kind of man who can do this without effort and in a natural, confident way?

If your answers are "No, No, No and Yes", then I have TWO OFFERS for you.

Offer #1

Join me in Cancun, Mexico on February 25th for 4 days. Let me buy your hotel room for the 24th for social night on the 24th. I'll throw in a drink or two if you want. I WANT TO MEET YOU IN PERSON!

Click HERE to learn all about this special Mastering Your Mojo retreat where we teach you how to become a calm, deliberate and pleased man who gets the intimacy he wants. And there will be laughter, dancing, probably some crying and lot of deep connecting with me exactly like YOU. There are two spots remaining.

Offer #2

Free: Go HERE to apply for a Free "Become an Intimate Man" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow. If you don't decide to ask for help, nobody else is coming to help you. These calls are incredibly INTIMATE. So buckle up.

Let me help you like other men have helped me.

You'll never look back. Promise.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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