Why do we compare??
We compare ourselves to others because we don't have or are not yet confident enough in our OWN INTERNAL GAUGE.
You must develop your own unique
measure of success and happiness because other people's measures are all wrong for you.
We can't look outside of ourselves for reassurance that we're on the right path. We must define the path that's right for us and assess our own progress.
But most of us still look outside ourselves.
We look to women to affirm our
value.
We watch TV, movies and porn and get a twisted version of manhood.
We envy the jobs, money, women and sex lives of other men.
Why?
Because we don't yet have a clear answer for some critical questions.
Who am I? What do I stand for?
Where am I going? What do I expect of myself when nobody is watching?
What do I expect FOR myself that I'm willing to create for myself?
My coach asks me all the time..."Do you have a vision of your future so powerful it makes you want to cry when you think about it?" (I always grit my teeth when I'm asked that.)
What to do Instead?
I'll number these for you so you won't forget.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. (yes, you can)
2. Start calibrating your OWN gauge of happiness and success. (more below on this)
3. Stop second guessing your own power and brilliance. (yes, I know you do that)
4. Start
hanging around BETTER PEOPLE as soon as possible. (you're the average of the 5 people you hang around most...be careful)
Then lather, rinse and repeat.
I go through these 4 steps over and over again. It's a process. It's a mindset.
It's a lifestyle. You get to choose to live it your way.
This is exactly why I do retreats. I do them for ME first - then you.
These retreats are THE BEST WAY to immediately up your game and check off numbers 1-4 above.
I get to meet amazing, smart,
compassionate men. They inspire me with their dreams, their courage and their tenacity.
They are willing to GIVE support to other men as well as RECEIVE encouragement from others.
And they are some of the best people I've ever met. Honest. Driven. Sincere. Open hearted.
The men who attend my retreats are
master electricians, business owners, doctors, over the road truckers, Air Force generals, lawyers, teachers, retired pastors, engineers (the choo-choo kind too!)...you name it.
Most importantly they are good men. And so are you.
We can't wait to meet you.
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