Let me say the most obvious thing first.
Women confuse men. Frequently. And, we do the same to women.
As much as we are biologically alike, there's that THING that just makes your head want to blow up when you're together.
What's funny is that when you first met her, there was nearly NOTHING WHATSOEVER that confused you, triggered you, frustrated you or angered you.
Why?
It's not because of the
"honeymoon cocktail of hormones" everyone talks about.
It's because it was EASY FOR YOU TO THINK DIFFERENTLY about her. You gave her instant benefit of the doubt at every turn. You saw the best in her and even talked glowingly about her behind her back.
You had the HIGHEST REGARD for who she was and what gifts she brought into your life.
And, now?
Yeah, I know. It's different. Not so
easy, is it? And the same goes for her toward you.
When a man is facing the prospect of divorce, the most powerful thing he can do is to go back to the basics.
In this case, it will require you to do
enough introspection to find out where that early version of you went and why he's so damn scared and confused right now.
She said she's leaving, but she's still here!
This is so common
it's almost funny.
A wife will say, "I'm done! I'm getting a lawyer and I'm leaving!"
And 3 months later nothing has changed.
You may think she's calculating a strategy, getting her ducks in a row or just "taking advantage" of you.
Or, you may think she just "doesn't know what she wants".
I'm here to tell you that she doesn't truly know what she wants.
In fact, what she wants isn't a tangible thing or a thought she's thinking.
While you might imagine an organized list of "things I want" in your head, she has an ever flowing, expanding and contracting connection to how she wants to feel.
They are feelings she wants...not things.
It's important that you learn the difference now.
*****
There's something much better than "saving your
marriage". And that is saving yourself from the hamster wheel of habits, thought and behavioral patterns that got you to this point.
You HAVE TO want better than that. And you have to want that within yourself first. When you do that, you won't "save your marriage". It will now be
possible to create the marriage you really wanted all along.
That's exactly why Tim Wade and I recorded over 9 hours of video coaching on EVERY ASPECT of defusing the bomb in your chest and possibly getting your marriage back in safe waters.
It's not going to be easy. But nothing worth having really is.
And we've created the best community and the best online course available for you learn how to just STOP doing the things that will make everything worse.
We've decided to run a 3-day HALF OFF offer for our course:
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Yeah, ridiculously cheap...considering what lawyers and divorce settlements cost.
Module II
dives deep into these topics:
- Why you argue about stupid shit and how to stop it cold
- How to confront the sex issue and why
arguing about it is making things worse
- How to stop trying to be right and start being more effective when you speak to her
- How to dance with the drama and be a sexier man in the process
- The four marriage killers you must stop immediately
- Stinkin' thinkin': how to stop the flow of negativity and start creating more connection
- How to become almost cocky in the face of conflict (in a really good
way)
- The secret about why she isn't even trying and why that's okay... for now
