If I had only ONE MESSAGE to give you about your fear of divorce it's this.
You're going to be okay. Really. You are. And, yes, I do know that for sure.
Yes, if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger.
But I don't mean "stronger" in that you will build a fort around your feelings and live inside a tough skin of anger, guilt and resentment. That's is a very popular option for many guys.
But, not for you.
I know all about the mind monkeys in your head throwing poop.
The
ugly, stinking thoughts, stories, images, memories and guilt can drive you into anger, sadness, sleeplessness and a weight loss program you never planned on.
Does it suck? Hell yes, it sucks. It sucks more than anything you've probably ever felt before. You're STILL going to be
okay.
Here's the truth I've discovered after gathering a few thousand data points. This is what can happen for you...if you allow it to happen.
And it will happen in this order.
- You will enter a period of shock and grief with all the trimmings of denial, anger, bargaining, deep sadness/crying and acceptance.
- But, that's not all! The next stage is a sudden awareness of everything you didn't know before. There will be some guilt to sprinkle on top at this point. It will feel bad, but urgent.
- You will look deeper into yourself and your life and wonder "WTF
is the "lesson" here?" You are seeing that healing requires understanding and learning stuff dad never told you about yourself, marriage, love and sex.
- You will start poking around and finding information that grabs you by the throat. And you will gorge. And it will feel good. And you will eat way too fast. And that will feel
bad...anxious...impatient.
- You'll get your appetite back and start sleeping better. This makes you take better care of yourself and you will begin connecting with others.
- You'll make a stunning conclusion. "I'm not dead
yet!" And you realize that all that pain had a purpose. And now you know what to do with it.
- Now...you realize, "Hey, I'm actually okay."
This is the reality for men who decide that this sucky situation is supposed to teach them something.
They begin to thrive in ways they never imagined. And, eventually, they even feel a peaceful gratitude for the pain. And, in a funny way, they are grateful they didn't die angry and stupid.
This is who we are. It's who YOU are. So accept it now.
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Wait for Friday.
